Get What You Want…Say Yes to No

Get What You Want…Say Yes to No

In my last blog, I wrote about saying yes. Yes, to opportunity. Yes, to new ideas. Yes, as a default. But there is also one more “yes.” To say yes to the things we want, the experiences, the relationships, the jobs, the vacations, the fabulous meal, and so on, we have...
Get What You Want…What Are You Waiting For?

Get What You Want…What Are You Waiting For?

Three years ago, a friend of mine received a deadly diagnosis. She found a treatment protocol and got her affairs in order, and then went about living her very best life. She took the trips, saw her friends and family, wore the costumes, got the legislation she cared...
Get What You Want…Focus on Yourself

Get What You Want…Focus on Yourself

When I was a synchronized swimmer, it was easy to compare myself to others. Especially my duet partner. In duet, the job is to be together perfectly matched. But in solos and figure competition, well, your job is to be the best you can be. Period. Full stop. You both...
Get What You Want…Tell misery to get lost

Get What You Want…Tell misery to get lost

Just like smell, how you feel is important information. You move away from stinky trash and stale milk. Move away from what hurts. Only humans keep sitting on hot stoves hoping the stove will change.  You were not created to be miserable. Suffering is not a...
Get What You Want… You don’t have to catch every ball

Get What You Want… You don’t have to catch every ball

“You don’t have to catch every ball that’s thrown to you.” A line repeated to me by a mentor as I navigated my mother’s impossible, never-ending anger and disappointment. I thought it was disappointment in me but in truth it was much bigger. It was...
Get What You Want… How do your talents blend?

Get What You Want… How do your talents blend?

I have spent nearly half a century trying to be “not” my mother. She was beautiful, brilliant, and troubled. She lived an amazing life that I am not sure she ever enjoyed. I am not like her by temperament. But as I listed all the career shifts, she had including...