I was at an event a few weeks ago. In my friend’s kitchen there was a magnet on the refrigerator that said “it is what it is.”

I’ve heard it a zillion times but on that day I heard it differently. I wondered well yes that’s how things are but do they need to stay that way?

If you don’t like how it is, do something about it.

Change the job. Paint the kitchen. Call your member of Congress. Hire the assistant. Fix the door that squeaks.

Just because today it is what it is, doesn’t mean it has to be that way tomorrow.

To your best life,


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