Get What You Want…Focus on Yourself

Get What You Want…Focus on Yourself

When I was a synchronized swimmer, it was easy to compare myself to others. Especially my duet partner. In duet, the job is to be together perfectly matched. But in solos and figure competition, well, your job is to be the best you can be. Period. Full stop. You both...
Get What You Want…Tell misery to get lost

Get What You Want…Tell misery to get lost

Just like smell, how you feel is important information. You move away from stinky trash and stale milk. Move away from what hurts. Only humans keep sitting on hot stoves hoping the stove will change.  You were not created to be miserable. Suffering is not a...
Get What You Want… You don’t have to catch every ball

Get What You Want… You don’t have to catch every ball

“You don’t have to catch every ball that’s thrown to you.” A line repeated to me by a mentor as I navigated my mother’s impossible, never-ending anger and disappointment. I thought it was disappointment in me but in truth it was much bigger. It was...
Get What You Want… Caterpillars and Butterflies

Get What You Want… Caterpillars and Butterflies

I was going through a rough patch. I was turning everything upside down. Or maybe right side up. I started a new job. Left my husband. Moved to a new place.  Things felt better but nothing felt quite right. Like it fits. It was all a messy jumble. My good friend...
Get What You Want…Make It Stop

Get What You Want…Make It Stop

Do you ever get anxious and over-think? Or you walk into a meeting or hop on zoom in a perfectly good mood but by the time the meeting ends, you are wearing your arms as earrings as your shoulders tense up? How do you stop it? You’ve got to get out of your head. Here...
Get What You Want…Expect It

Get What You Want…Expect It

I am a firm believer in planning and driving forward. And planning for what might go wrong. But we also need to plan for what might go right, so you don’t miss opportunities. We tend to see what we are looking for. If we are looking for trouble, we almost always find...