Just like smell, how you feel is important information. You move away from stinky trash and stale milk. Move away from what hurts. Only humans keep sitting on hot stoves hoping the stove will change. You were not created to be miserable. Suffering is not a...
I have spent nearly half a century trying to be “not” my mother. She was beautiful, brilliant, and troubled. She lived an amazing life that I am not sure she ever enjoyed. I am not like her by temperament. But as I listed all the career shifts, she had including...
I was going through a rough patch. I was turning everything upside down. Or maybe right side up. I started a new job. Left my husband. Moved to a new place. Things felt better but nothing felt quite right. Like it fits. It was all a messy jumble. My good friend...
It just does. I can remember being very upset the day I left for my honeymoon. It was a great day, planning for fun and celebrating the birth of my first niece Becky and the first of the next generation. And then my mother called. Her bank accounts had been frozen...
I was listening to a colleague’s personal story yesterday and it hit me. As a child, I made a bargain to be no trouble, to need as little as possible, and not want anything to earn the love of a difficult and troubled mom. I was really good at being small and not...
As a cashew, a person of Catholic and Jewish descent, I am an expert on guilt. I spent years living guilt squared. If there was a problem, surely, I caused it. Or at least that’s how I felt. But I gave it up for Lent. Well, I have been giving it up for let every year...
