Get What You Want…Boundaries

Get What You Want…Boundaries

Boundaries. An easy word to throw around. A hard one to honor. Boundaries for where you focus your time. Boundaries on who you let into your space. But if you don’t have them, you will focus on whoever is around and where they want you to look. I get it. It’s hard. We...
Get What You Want…Do you like you?

Get What You Want…Do you like you?

It’s been a minute. Actually, more like a month. Summer is my busiest time of year. This year between family losses including my mom’s death and the usual busy, it was just a lot. And I lost track of September. In addition to whatever is happening, the pandemic is...
Get What You Want…Say Yes to No

Get What You Want…Say Yes to No

In my last blog, I wrote about saying yes. Yes, to opportunity. Yes, to new ideas. Yes, as a default. But there is also one more “yes.” To say yes to the things we want, the experiences, the relationships, the jobs, the vacations, the fabulous meal, and so on, we have...
Get What You Want…Focus on Yourself

Get What You Want…Focus on Yourself

When I was a synchronized swimmer, it was easy to compare myself to others. Especially my duet partner. In duet, the job is to be together perfectly matched. But in solos and figure competition, well, your job is to be the best you can be. Period. Full stop. You both...
Get What You Want…Tell misery to get lost

Get What You Want…Tell misery to get lost

Just like smell, how you feel is important information. You move away from stinky trash and stale milk. Move away from what hurts. Only humans keep sitting on hot stoves hoping the stove will change.  You were not created to be miserable. Suffering is not a...
Get What You Want… You don’t have to catch every ball

Get What You Want… You don’t have to catch every ball

“You don’t have to catch every ball that’s thrown to you.” A line repeated to me by a mentor as I navigated my mother’s impossible, never-ending anger and disappointment. I thought it was disappointment in me but in truth it was much bigger. It was...