What We Think
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Fill up often.
– Julie Jakopic
What We Think
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Fill up often.
– Julie Jakopic
Lead Boldly Blog
Get What You Want…Tell misery to get lost
Just like smell, how you feel is important information. You move away from stinky trash and stale milk. Move away from what hurts. Only humans keep sitting on hot stoves hoping the stove will change. You were not created to be miserable. Suffering is not a...
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Get What You Want… You don’t have to catch every ball
“You don’t have to catch every ball that’s thrown to you.” A line repeated to me by a mentor as I navigated my mother's impossible, never-ending anger and disappointment. I thought it was disappointment in me but in truth it was much bigger. It was disappointment in...
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Get What You Want… How do your talents blend?
I have spent nearly half a century trying to be “not” my mother. She was beautiful, brilliant, and troubled. She lived an amazing life that I am not sure she ever enjoyed. I am not like her by temperament. But as I listed all the career shifts, she had including...
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Get What You Want… Caterpillars and Butterflies
I was going through a rough patch. I was turning everything upside down. Or maybe right side up. I started a new job. Left my husband. Moved to a new place. Things felt better but nothing felt quite right. Like it fits. It was all a messy jumble. My good friend...
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Get What You Want… $H!t Happens
It just does. I can remember being very upset the day I left for my honeymoon. It was a great day, planning for fun and celebrating the birth of my first niece Becky and the first of the next generation. And then my mother called. Her bank accounts had been frozen...
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Get What You Want…Make It Stop
Do you ever get anxious and over-think? Or you walk into a meeting or hop on zoom in a perfectly good mood but by the time the meeting ends, you are wearing your arms as earrings as your shoulders tense up? How do you stop it? You’ve got to get out of your head. Here...
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Get What You Want…Expect It
I am a firm believer in planning and driving forward. And planning for what might go wrong. But we also need to plan for what might go right, so you don’t miss opportunities. We tend to see what we are looking for. If we are looking for trouble, we almost always find...
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Get What You Want…No More Small
I was listening to a colleague’s personal story yesterday and it hit me. As a child, I made a bargain to be no trouble, to need as little as possible, and not want anything to earn the love of a difficult and troubled mom. I was really good at being small and not...
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Get What You Want…It’s About Time
Howdy. It’s been a minute. Time has seemed to spin faster than I could get all things done. And it’s not just me. I led a Get It Done Day last week with this year’s coaching cohort and to a person, the biggest challenge they were facing was managing time. So we...
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Get What You Want…Create Some Normal
I am too short to sit at my desk. My feet don’t touch the floor. So, I have to wear shoes with heels. Sometimes I wear stilettos. I want to practice so I can wear them after the pandemic. But mostly, I wear a pair of black Dansko clogs. For most of my life, I have...
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Get What You Want…Slow Down to Speed Up
It’s been a good few weeks with projects that make a difference. But often my work is filled with hills and valleys. Tons of work and then a lull and then slammed again. Last week I was swamped. Plus I’m supposed to be working on the book and supporting a couple of...
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Get What You Want…Get Happy
Ok. I know the anniversary of lockdown is tomorrow. But that makes this even more important. Being miserable never helped anyone or anyone around them. Success doesn’t lead to happiness; happiness leads to success. Doing more of what makes us happy matters. 1. It...
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