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You can’t pour from an empty cup. Fill up often.
– Julie Jakopic
What We Think
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Fill up often.
– Julie Jakopic
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Get What You Want…Say Yes to No
In my last blog, I wrote about saying yes. Yes, to opportunity. Yes, to new ideas. Yes, as a default. But there is also one more “yes.” To say yes to the things we want, the experiences, the relationships, the jobs, the vacations, the fabulous meal, and so on, we have...
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Get What You Want…Say Yes!
What is your default? Is it “yes” or “no?” I have been reading Shonda Rhimes “Year of Yes.” It is a brilliant book. It’s about a year she made a commitment to her reluctant self to say “yes” to the things that came her way, especially those that scared her. I love the...
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Get What You Want…What Are You Waiting For?
Three years ago, a friend of mine received a deadly diagnosis. She found a treatment protocol and got her affairs in order, and then went about living her very best life. She took the trips, saw her friends and family, wore the costumes, got the legislation she cared...
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Get What You Want…Focus on Yourself
When I was a synchronized swimmer, it was easy to compare myself to others. Especially my duet partner. In duet, the job is to be together perfectly matched. But in solos and figure competition, well, your job is to be the best you can be. Period. Full stop. You both...
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Get What You Want…Tell misery to get lost
Just like smell, how you feel is important information. You move away from stinky trash and stale milk. Move away from what hurts. Only humans keep sitting on hot stoves hoping the stove will change. You were not created to be miserable. Suffering is not a...
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Get What You Want… You don’t have to catch every ball
“You don’t have to catch every ball that’s thrown to you.” A line repeated to me by a mentor as I navigated my mother's impossible, never-ending anger and disappointment. I thought it was disappointment in me but in truth it was much bigger. It was disappointment in...
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Get What You Want… How do your talents blend?
I have spent nearly half a century trying to be “not” my mother. She was beautiful, brilliant, and troubled. She lived an amazing life that I am not sure she ever enjoyed. I am not like her by temperament. But as I listed all the career shifts, she had including...
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Get What You Want… Caterpillars and Butterflies
I was going through a rough patch. I was turning everything upside down. Or maybe right side up. I started a new job. Left my husband. Moved to a new place. Things felt better but nothing felt quite right. Like it fits. It was all a messy jumble. My good friend...
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Get What You Want… $H!t Happens
It just does. I can remember being very upset the day I left for my honeymoon. It was a great day, planning for fun and celebrating the birth of my first niece Becky and the first of the next generation. And then my mother called. Her bank accounts had been frozen...
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Get What You Want…Make It Stop
Do you ever get anxious and over-think? Or you walk into a meeting or hop on zoom in a perfectly good mood but by the time the meeting ends, you are wearing your arms as earrings as your shoulders tense up? How do you stop it? You’ve got to get out of your head. Here...
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Get What You Want…Expect It
I am a firm believer in planning and driving forward. And planning for what might go wrong. But we also need to plan for what might go right, so you don’t miss opportunities. We tend to see what we are looking for. If we are looking for trouble, we almost always find...
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Get What You Want…No More Small
I was listening to a colleague’s personal story yesterday and it hit me. As a child, I made a bargain to be no trouble, to need as little as possible, and not want anything to earn the love of a difficult and troubled mom. I was really good at being small and not...
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